If there is anything this past year is revealing, it's that many people are going through the motions in life. Plus, with the back-to-work orders underway, many people are reevaluating everything – jobs, relationships, health, and financial situation.
Some people call this time ‘The Great Resignation’ – meaning that we will see many people quitting their jobs for various reasons.
Perhaps, it’s because they enjoyed the freedom they had working from home or the taste of the lifestyle they always dreamed about. Working outside of the house doesn’t always provide this freedom.
For some, the commute alone makes a huge difference and adds minutes and hours to their already busy day. Time is a precious asset. Even those extra moments to throw a load of laundry in during the day, cook dinner at a reasonable time, or be home when the kids get home from school are what freedom is all about.
So, I thought this blog post is timely as people start to evaluate what they want to do with their lives and whether they will pursue their dreams. It’s the five mistakes I see people make when pursuing their dreams, and if at all possible, I want to help you avoid them.
1. You listen to what other people want from you instead of doing what’s best for you.
Raise your hand if you feel the pressure or obligation to live a certain way?
No shame if this is you. For most women, we are conditioned to uphold a particular image or role within a family unit. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard from women in my free Facebook community who are disappointed and dissatisfied with their current situation. They know they need support but rely on their spouse, friends, or family to dictate whether they pursue their dreams. It’s someone else's opinion of what is possible that guides their decision-making.
But here’s the thing...what someone else believes to be possible for you is merely a projection. No one knows for sure what you can achieve, so listening to others for guidance is selling yourself short. It’s also the reason you’re likely unhappy and unfulfilled with your current situation. You’re disconnected from your truth, and you’ve lived this way for far too long.
2. You start a goal and then stop the minute it doesn’t work out or make a mistake.
Let’s say you want to start making health a priority. However, after two consecutive days of exercising regularly for 30 minutes, you have a tough day at work, and then you don’t exercise that day. This sends you into a downward spiral, and you stop exercising altogether.
Giving up on the minute something doesn’t go your way is the path to failure. It takes courage and resiliency to carry on even when things aren’t going as planned.
So, what can you do instead?
First, remind yourself that you’re not perfect, it’s okay to fail, make a mistake, or be inconsistent sometimes, especially when you’re just starting with that goal. However, don’t let that stop you from pushing forward. It’s all about taking small steps until you reach your desired result or outcome.
3. You put too much pressure on yourself and the goal you want to achieve.
We put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve our goals overnight, and when we don’t see the results immediately, we get discouraged that it isn’t happening quickly enough. Even worse, we slip back into our old way of doing things. I get it. It’s comfortable staying the way we are.
For example, maybe you want to find a better-suited job, so you put in the action by applying to a bunch of jobs online, but when you don’t hear from any of those jobs for interviews, you obsess over it. You might even catch yourself saying things like, “Why haven’t I heard back?” or “Why is this taking so long?”
Instead of letting things happen naturally, in their own time, and their way, you mull and stew over it (essentially obsessing about the outcome).
As long as you put in the work, you can sit back and relax, knowing your needs will be met as they are meant to, as the Universe, God, Source, Power, or whoever you choose to believe intends it to happen. Obsessing and worrying over the outcome wastes so much time and robs you of your present moment.
4. You fear the worst.
This goes hand in hand with number three, putting too much pressure on yourself and the goal you want to achieve.
When things aren’t happening as you expected them to you, start fearing the worst. You might ask yourself,
“What if this doesn’t work out?”
“What if I’m not good enough?”
This fear ends up attracting the very thing you’re trying to avoid. It’s the Law of Attraction – meaning like attracts like. When we put good thoughts and actions into the world, we will experience positive results. On the other hand, when we are constantly negative and fearful, we are less likely to take aligned action, negatively affecting our outcome.
5. You don't have the support needed to achieve what you desire.
If you’re a high-achiever working alone or trying to do everything yourself, you don’t have the support you need. You don’t have to do this alone. In fact, achieving what you want in life requires getting help from coaches and mentors.
Imagine working with a coach who’s been where you are, has a roadmap and method to get you where you are now to where you want to be, holds you accountable for achieving your desires, and can see what’s holding you back from achieving greatness.
I hate to break it to you, but you and you alone are the reason why you haven’t achieved your desires. So don’t keep letting yourself get in the way of your success.
If you’re guilty of making one or more of these mistakes, let’s change that! Because when any of these mistakes happen in your life, it costs you your happiness, joy, fulfillment, abundance, and even your health.
I invite you to click the link below to book a free Clarity Call with me to see how I can best support you in achieving your goals and desires so you can finally live a life of happiness, joy, fulfillment, abundance, and vibrant health.